Sunday, October 28, 2007
8:00 PM
Are kids turning to other influences or are parents making them to do so?
Question came into my mind. As more kids are so called turning to "bad influence" (according to CERTAIN parents, bad influence includes: Gangs, Normal Acad/ Tech students (no offense seriously!), Express students (only applicable for parents whom child is in special OR gifted stream), basically, anyone that they deem will bring their child's acad results down the drain. Church included for some parents). I start to wonder, why do kids even start to turn away from "good influence" (PARENTS. wad else) if they are really good influence... are we, kids really turning bad, or are we forced to turn bad?
The question that is always raised is that "why is my child turning bad." or "why is my child mixing with those bad influence?" Sounds familiar? what about this. "I have provided such a conducive environment for them to grow, spent half my life time nuturning them to be someone who will be big when they grow, and yet, they have to turn bad. this has got to be the bad influence of the people that they hang out with".
Common problems with parents. THEY ARE NEVER IN THE WRONG. infact, to them, their collegues and neighbours actually mean more and make more sense then their child. ever wondered if you, as a parent already cant understand your child, what makes your collegue/neighbour who barely speaks to YOUR child for more then ten sentences a year able to understand your child more. wouldn't YOUR child be able to understand HIMSELF/ HERSELF better? good question.
another common problem with parents is that their child is never good enough for them. No matter how many distinctions/ A-s they have in their report will never win what their neighbour/collegue says. "Ok lah. Not very good also wad".
now. what about this. your child finds this group of friends that actually encourage him/ her no matter what kind of results he gets. A group of friends that actually LISTENS to what him/ her has got to say. A group of people that actually CARES for them. (note, caring is not just buying breakfast for them, giving them allowances for the week, or just plain saying "I care for you". it is MORE THEN THAT).
bahh. super random, disorganized post. wadever.
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Thursday, October 25, 2007
7:05 PM
i have this sudden urge to blog, but i'm too lazy to blog. so yea. one entry =D
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Thursday, October 11, 2007
11:28 PM
bahhs.
ok. it has been sometime since the whole family sat down together in the living room. both my sisters are around, my parents are around. and yea. me. just the 5 of us, the tv, 2 laptops, some snacks...
not much talking, but yea. the presence makes a difference =)
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